Are you tired of arguing with your kids?
Read on to find out how I used advice from Adam Grant’s book “Originals: How Non-Conformists Move the World” to help change the dynamics of how I get my kids to interact and respond to one another.
“Originals: How Non-Conformists Move the World” by Adam Grant
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“Ask Children what their role models would do. Children feel free to take initiative when they look at problems through the eyes of originals…”
Instantly, I saw opportunity for this to help me when I ask my kids to stop fighting or be nicer to one another.
This is how it went down in my head after reading Adam’s wise words. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve given orders for my kids to be nice to one another. His idea of finding someone they admire, having them think it through, and make their own decisions really appealed to me.
My kids FREAKING LOVE Star Wars- so naturally-we would channel our inner Luke Skywalker.
WHAT REALLY HAPPENED:
I kid you not. This is what actually went down with my 3 year old, smirk and all.
I didn’t give up though. I kept talking about Luke. We talked about Luke and what he would do in positive situations AND during conflict.
While this doesn’t work all the time, it really helps start the conversation around values and what the good guys they admire would do. We also talked about what villains would do. We talked about how the villains in Wild Kratts would say thank you versus Chris and Martin. It was funny to mimic snide thank you’s from Zach and Donita and contrast that to pleasant thank you’s that we thought would come from Chris and Martin. Most of all, it helps them begin to think about people they admire- and I’m not constantly telling them what to do and not do. I get to ask them what they think.